Legally there are only slight advantages to filing first. The party that files first is the Petitioner and the other party is the Respondent. Regardless of who files first, both parties will have an opportunity to fully present his/her case to the Court if the case progresses to trial. Once the case is filed, generally speaking, the filing date controls the designation of marital versus non-marital property. Although some marital and family lawyers opine that there are no legal advantages to filing first, there certainly are emotional or psychological reasons to assist you in determining when to file, these include: If you file first you have the ability to calmly interview prospective counsel and amass your team before the case is filed. If you do not file first, in Florida you have to file a responsive pleading 20 days after you are served with process (the initial paper work). If you do not file first, you may feel as if you are scrambling to look for legal counsel and experts. If two different counties or states can properly exercise jurisdiction over your case, the party that files first controls the choice of venue (the county in which the case proceeds). By filing first, you make the choice on jurisdiction. If you are filing first, you control the timeframe within which the case progresses. The date of filing determines the date by which discovery is due and often the date of valuation of assets. If you file first, you may prevent your spouse from hiding or moving marital assets before the valuation date is set. You may actually be protecting assets. If you believe that your spouse procrastinates or will not be responsive to your attempts to participate in the process, by filing and serving process, you force your spouse to “play ball” within the timeframe prescribed by the rules of court. If your case progresses to trial, the Petitioner will present the evidence to the Judge first, which some may argue is a slight advantage. However, if the presentation of the case is long, and spans several days, sometimes the Judge may remember more of what was presented last. The cost of filing the case to the Petitioner is slightly higher than for the Respondent. Some parties do not want to file first because they do not want to be the one to “ask” for the divorce for spiritual or other reasons. However, if you are not the first to file, do not fret. Generally, when you respond to the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage filed against you, you will file a Counter-Petition for Dissolution of Marriage. Essentially this is a case within a case. This prevents your spouse from dismissing the petition and ending the proceedings without your consent. Authored by: Jacquie Valdespino
Generally speaking, if your marriage was legal where you were married, then your marriage will be recognized in Florida so that you may be divorced here, assuming you meet jurisdictional requirements. Given the recent changes in laws regarding same sex-couples, this is generally speaking across the board. Same-sex marriages from other states and countries are also recognized in Florida. As with everything, there can be some exceptions. If you are married in another country, you need to ensure you have followed that countries law for a valid marriage for the marriage to be recognized in Florida. For example, Columbia recognizes two different types of relationships, a marital relationship like we would normally define marriage and a union marital de hecho. The latter is more like what we would call a domestic partnership. In this case, the court ultimately decided the parties were not married because it was the latter, domestic partnership, and therefore, the parties were not married under Florida law. However, that is definitely the exception and an unusual situation. Because of comity and full faith and credit, the basic principal is that if your marriage is valid where you were married, it will be a valid marriage in Florida and should not affect your divorce rights. However, if you have any concerns about the location or circumstances of your marriage, be sure to notify your attorney for further consideration. Authored by: Elisha Roy
Dating during the pendency of divorce proceedings is fine, if conducted with discretion. There is no purpose served by refraining from companionship and intimacy while waiting for the resolution of a divorce case. Abstinence from normal human relations can actually make things worse, emotionally and psychologically. At the same time, discretion avoids unnecessarily hurting the feelings of the other spouse and risking damaged relations with minor children. You must also exercise care in the spending of money on the new relationship to avoid controversy. Discuss the potential impact of dating during your divorce with your attorney. Authored by: James P. Knox